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Things to Do During the Summer (If You Are a Student)
For some, summer is vacation time. You can finally sleepy really late and not worry about any deadline for tomorrow. However, for us students, it’s a bit different. We never really get a break with deadlines until we graduate high school. For that reason, I’m going to give you some advice on how to make the most out of your summer as a high school student.
1. Volunteer
If I have any regrets during my high school years, it’s the fact that I didn’t do my volunteer work during the summer. It was a bit too late when I found out that there AREN'T a lot of volunteer opportunities for students during the school year. Sure there are some, but imagine having a volunteer work that requires more time than school itself. I remember being frustrated about getting enough hours for volunteer requirement whilst finding extra time to study for my exams. Remember, we, as high school students, always have to prioritize what will help us towards our graduation. Think twice before you book that vacation. Think of the 30hrs required volunteer work for graduation.
2. Summer School
One advantage of going to summer school is you only have to do 2 months to complete a course. Think of the classes that you want to improve your grades on or credits that you need to fulfill in order to complete the graduation requirement. If you feel that you are tired from the last year and desperately need a break, just remember that you are only going to be doing it for 2 months! You might even have lots of free blocks when you return to school.
3. Work
Working is also a good option for your summer. You can start earning money for expenses you will have for the next year or you can save it for your tuition fee when you get out. You might even have to say no to student loan if you have enough savings or use it to pay for your textbooks.
4. Prepping for College
I know that most of the things I’ve already said is about preparing for graduation. Nevertheless, if you’re planning to go to college, it’s important that you take the time to research your prospective university or college. Don’t be one of those students who leave their planning at the very last minute and so unfortunately for them, it was too late when they found out they have to meet requirements, not just for graduation, but requirements the college itself has imposed (e.g. a certain grade in English 12 or Math 12 or extracurricular activities to buff your application ) There are lots of people you can get help from such as your high school counsellor, a counsellor from your prospective college or current students who are there.
5. Extra Curricular Activities
Of course, summer is still summer. Don’t stay too much inside your home and bury your face in your phones, TV, or books. During the school year, you probably spent your time doing repetitive actions (i.e. wake up, eat, school, eat, home, sleep). It is important for your body that it gets some actual exercise. Remember that you also need to unwind after that stressful school year. Get up and do something under the sun. It maybe sports, community work, or just walking your dog. Most importantly, ECE’s are also a requirement for graduation. Ask you counsellor how many hours a week you have to accomplish.
There’s a lot of pressure for us high school students. As immigrants, the pressure is even a tad bit more because there’s this feeling that we are just getting started on this new chapter of our lives and there are already tons of things we have to accomplish such as the things mention above, and what makes it hard is that we haven’t completely settled in yet – at least emotionally. So don’t feel too worried if you’re not meeting everything on time. You just have to pause, think, and plan wisely. Get some help from high school counsellors or you can maybe visit our website! We have tons of blogs that are full of tips on how to make the most out of your high school experience. All are written by immigrants! So yes, we know exactly how you feel. Go on and enjoy the rest of the summer!
Tips For High School New Immigrants
I’ve been writing advice articles for years, but every now and then new realizations hit me. Since I’m now older and wiser, I think and believe these new ideas of mine could help you guys and save you some time.
1. There is no shame in summer school
This shame in summer school belief may not be shared by everyone. From where I came from, summer school is somehow apprehended with a little bit of reluctance. Everybody knows that you’re there because you’re in remedial or repeating a class you failed. No one is there to do advance class. When I first got here, I almost cried when I found out I’m going to summer school. Then I realized, it was for the better. I was there to catch up with my credits so I could graduate in time. Moreover, no one should be ashamed in school during the summer. You’re doing it to better yourself, and, aside from that, you get to make new friends from different schools!
2. Eating alone in the hallway is not recommended
I know this may not sound true to introverts, but as a fellow introvert and an immigrant, it would only make you feel sad to eat alone during lunch break. When I was in high school, I never ate in the cafeteria. I never got the chance to meet someone new during lunch breaks. I remember once I was eating by myself in the stairwell. A sad background music is the only thing that’s missing to make a depressing emo music video. I thought to myself, "this has to stop". So I begged my high school counsellor to find me friends. Best decision I did in high school (and taking planning 10 online :P)
3. Decreasing your credit/term load is not always a good thing
When I got into grade 12, I finally got the chance to have free blocks. I thought I didn’t have to take classes that were not necessary. I thought all I needed really was English 12, the rest were electives. Boy, I was wrong. I wish I took an Accounting 12 or Pre-Calculus 12 then I would probably have something to write on my résumé as experience or have prerequisites for college courses. Although, spending all those hours reading in the library is a joy too. The caveat is know what credits or classes you need to take before embarking on a schedule with lots of free blocks.
4. Make friends outside your circle
For us immigrants, we tend to be friends with the same people like we are. How can that be wrong? We know that birds of the same feather flock together. I was content with the friends that I have in school that I never bothered making new ones in my classes. Now, I can literally say I only have six friends. I don’t have anyone to talk to when they’re busy. I didn’t have friends or even acquaintance in my classes that they weren’t in. Learn from my mistake and step out of your comfort zone and make new friends that are not immigrants like you. You’ll have more connections and more strings to pull when you need it in the future. I know that sounded like a crude business person advice, but we have to accept that connections are important in the adult world, especially when you’re an immigrant.
5. Your GPA does not define you
Like any other parents, mine want me to get good grades. B+ is not good enough. I get sad when I’m not in the honour roll even though I knew I worked hard. I got so obsessed with getting good grades that I was not learning anymore. Being in school should mean that we are learning life lessons that we can use when we’re done schooling. I got so fed up with only wanting high grades that I can’t even remember what I learned about last term. And when I finally got into the honour roll, it wasn’t much that gratifying. What’s a grade on a paper going to do when you’re finally out of school and have to do everything on your own? Besides, there are a lot of factors that determine your grades, and your intelligence is not the sole predictor of it.
I’m sure that sometime in the future, I will find some new realizations and I’ll be glad to share it with you again. For now, I encourage you guys to take these suggestions into consideration and keep your head high! High school is not a place to dread for! Good luck.
- Anonymeh
The Anti-Bucket List
(An anti-bucket list is a list of things that
one hopes to never do before s/he dies)
Summer is
coming and most of us are already making plans to make the most out of it. Usually, we want
to try new things; we intend to do things that we haven’t done yet. Some stick
to what they have done last year and just revisit it, while others pull out
ideas from their bucket list.
A bucket
list is a list of things that a person wants to do before s/he dies. Summer is the
perfect time to do things we have been wanting to do. However, I want to change things up. Instead of doing things
from our bucket list this summer, how about we list some things we wish to
avoid doing while we are alive? Here are some things from my own anti-bucket
list:
1. Do drugs
or smoke
I don’t know
about you, but I firmly believe in saying no to (routinely consuming highly
addicting illegal) drugs. Your stance on
drugs might be completely different from mine, but I’ve done my research and I
know its negative health side effects. I know there are various types of drugs
and some of them are harmless. I would love to further explain my side to those
who believe otherwise, but it’s hard to shake someone’s belief especially when
they formed that since childhood. Additionally, just like what high school or
college cliché movies show, there are peer pressures everywhere. It might not
be from your peers but we can’t deny that we currently live in an era where the
line on drugs is blurred. One second, I’m antagonistic about it, the next
second I’m rationalising using it. Thanks, philosophy lecture class.
Nevertheless, I wish to never do drugs until I die. That would be quite an
achievement for a person like me who changes her mind every 15 seconds.
2. Skydiving
Skydiving is
one of the popular things we see on a bucket list. But for me, I would never
take the leap of faith simply because I don’t have faith. Kidding aside, I know
I have faith, but it’s just not that strong. Every person has their weakness,
and I think this is mine. Even if you offer me a million dollars to do a stunt
with safety and harness and all, I would not have the courage to do so. This is
unfortunate for me because every time someone asks me between having the
ability to fly or be invisible, I always choose flying!
3. Be stuck
in a deserted place
This is
probably because I have watched a lot of horror movies where people get stuck
in a deserted place and one by one they die because of psycho-killers. Maybe
it’s also the fact that I don’t trust people in this kind of situation. I feel
like when this happens, people easily forget being “human” and a war of “all
against all” begins. Or maybe, it’s just that I don’t trust my survival
skills.
4. Wake up before 3am
I know my
schedule and I know I never set things to do earlier than 7 am. Normally my
wake up time is around 6:40 am. Waking up earlier than that mostly gives me the
“sad”. A bit irrational, but the only time I have to wake around that hour is
when something bad has happened. I remember being woken up at 2 in the morning
knowing that my grandma died, traveling
at 4 in the morning to get in time for a relative’s funeral, being at the airport before 5 to send off my
mom to the airport. My sister also told
me this story that 3am is the hour of the devil and it’s bad to be up at that
hour or you’ll see ghosts staring at you (If you’re reading this at night, be
careful not to look at the closet. That’s where they hide). It’s probably the
last one that I don’t like waking up at 3 in the morning.
5. Choose
between two people that are important to you
I think it’s
fair to say that this is one of the things that a lot of people dread. I only see this happen in the movies, but
I’ll be wrecked if this happen to me. You just can’t choose one between two
people who are important to you. That’s like asking, "if you have to choose
between your hands, which one do you keep?" But you know what, I think what’s worse than this dilemma is to be one
of the two people who are being chosen, then not get picked. #gentlyapplywatertothatburn
These things
are from my own anti-bucket list. Yours may be very different from mine, but
that’s okay. Just remember that sometimes we need to avoid certain things in
order to make space for better, greater things. What’s in your anti-bucket list?
- Anonymeh
How is Immigration a Reset Button?
A few years ago, before immigrating, I was ostracized in my old
school, I was called “special” and was teased for my eccentricity, and then I
became the black sheep. All of that because I was raised with foreign beliefs,
something my xenophobic home country has no tolerance for. Luckily, a major
change happened, it opened up a million possibilities, an ongoing story’s new
chapter—immigration.
The chilly winds did not remind me of home; the snowy fields
did not even cause surprise; budding flowers inspire; the hot summer breeze
desired. Coming to Canada made me realize that I should not waste a hefty
privilege by sticking to my old, pre-immigration self. As much as I regret to
say, I don’t miss my past, and having a new life, a new society, peers and
expectations, is a really big change for a young person. However, I’m not
trying to persuade you to relinquish your background, just try to integrate it
into this Western environment.
Possible reasons for leaving your old self behind:
- - People from your country have terrible attitudes towards your new society
- - Afraid of racism and discrimination
- - Your old society’s habits may be harmful, especially to the new environment you’re in now
- - Can’t progress without adopting some Western attitudes
- - And a lot more you can probably think of
Now, I want you to think about a choice. If you
could ever relive the first days after immigration, what would you want?
- - Speak English without a thick accent?
- - Handle culture shock in a better way?
- - Have your family and friends be more Canadian?
- - Be an advocate for your country, being an exemplary immigrant who fares better here?
These are all wishes many of us did not receive as
newcomers. The first weeks were the hardest, but it is also one of the most
memorable, a puzzling era of your life.
Just start changing. Immigration has many positives as well
as negatives.
You will experience negative stereotypes, ultimately causing
you to ignore the underlying causes, then you will not be able to adapt to the
new culture. A few years later, your life plans become awry, your life in the
self-segregating ghetto groups, you lose contact with your family as a bonus
too. This actually happened to a person my family knew, he could not CHANGE
because he was AFRAID. No matter how we look at it, his life got ruined, his
extreme attachment to his long-established beliefs caused his downfall.
While his case was severe, it does not mean it can’t happen
to anyone. His projections to society were pathetic, they just reinforce
negative stereotypes. YES, negative stereotypes are the problems! A black
person who is not a brain-dead athlete, an Oriental who is not a robot
mathlete, Muslims are not brainwashed terrorists, and whites people are not
racists; and a lot more. Society is built by humans, so society should not
force humans its beliefs. Be an individual, not a boring, hollow,
insignificant, ignorant sheep. Start changing for the better now!
To simplify my point, think of an elastic metal spring,
stretch it too much then it breaks, not stretching it means it won’t be of any
use. I like to think of people as metal springs, they need to stretch to have
some use, they become useless and rusty if there is no change after a long
time, changing too much will break the spring and make you an individual, free
from self-stigma if you ever try to do something different in a conformist
environment. A heavy load breaks a spring; a lot of effort can go a long way.
Why try?
Every person has special talents, traits, abilities, potentials…
they just don’t get to use them. Everyone you know has a niche in society, not
everyone can be rich, not everyone can be popular, not everyone can be like
Leonardo DiCaprio. However, you can be as best as you can be, limitless, by
changing into a better, productive person.
"Haters gonna hate cuz I'm doing great" - Anonymous
- Angelo
All the World's a Stage
Shakespeare quoted one of the most important things shared
to mankind. Your life is a story and you’re the main character.
In movies, when someone is about to die, they usually don’t
go without a fight. Think of humans against a horde of zombies. No matter how
futile their efforts are, they still fight to survive, they try hard to live,
they work together to make the battle easier. Your life is just like that,
everyone’s life is.
Would you believe it if I tell you that your life is just
like a video game, a book, or a film? You’re the player, the main character,
the protagonist. Everyone else are just supporting characters, antagonists, and
stock characters. Think about it for a second, you don’t want to call yourself
the minor character in your life story, it is your life, not someone else’s.
Life is a game, your character is either strong at first or
strong at the end. In the real world, we call them prodigies and late bloomers.
A prodigy is just extremely gifted, born with the skills and talent, gets
special attention while young. A late bloomer is the opposite, a random nobody
until the day the late bloomer begins a series of hard work (quests) to improve
itself. Both, of course, can reach the same pinnacles of the game, the finales
(the boss levels), the best moments in life once achieved. Leaving a mark on
civilization, just like Mozart, Einstein, Disney, Socrates, Lincoln, Da Vinci,
and many others, whether child prodigies or late bloomers, they all reached the
same heights of success. Game is not over, work hard from now on, make a
plan—they all did, successful people owe their success to their hard work.
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| Courtesy of: Matthew Paulson |
Life is a storybook, you’re the main character. The story
can be set in a millionaire’s house, an impoverished country, or the
middle-class neighborhood. A good story requires a great conflict, something
the protagonist needs a lot of effort to beat. There’s going to be drama,
horror, psychological dilemmas, hardships, and sadness as the story goes on.
Also, there will be times of happiness, love, excitement, sentimentality, and
friendship. Your story continues chapter after every chapter, some long and
some short. The story revolves around you and the conflict: could be your
school, peers, family, society, and even yourself. The story only ends when one
force prevails, you must overcome the antagonist, do not try to escape it. Work
hard to achieve success, don’t procrastinate, a good story has no chapter where
the main character does nothing important.
Life is a film, a movie without a specific genre, not just
action, not just adventure, not just drama. Life is a mix of many different
genres, there’s adventure, romance, suspense, comedy, drama. You either aspire
for a movie (life) you want that’s full of satisfaction, or you can aim low and
reduce the amount of possible genre mixings. You may not have control of
everyone, thus you can’t be the writer of your life, but you’re the director,
the one who chooses a vision to follow. Oh, and make sure it’s a cool movie,
you’d be able to leave a mark on society.
Dream for a nice life, but don’t forget that a lot of effort
goes a long way, studying an hour a day amounts to more than 350 hours in a
year. Learning 5 foreign words a day amounts to more than 1800 words a year,
enough for language eloquence. I’ve seen a lot of people get the supermodel
body after exercising daily, within months. Working hard can get you anywhere,
just like when Michael Jordan was in high school, the only thing extraordinary
about him, at that time, was that he played as if every game was his last.
Just remember this: dream then start, then you fail, then
you succeed… and then you improve.
- Angelo
