All the World's a Stage
Shakespeare quoted one of the most important things shared
to mankind. Your life is a story and you’re the main character.
In movies, when someone is about to die, they usually don’t
go without a fight. Think of humans against a horde of zombies. No matter how
futile their efforts are, they still fight to survive, they try hard to live,
they work together to make the battle easier. Your life is just like that,
everyone’s life is.
Would you believe it if I tell you that your life is just
like a video game, a book, or a film? You’re the player, the main character,
the protagonist. Everyone else are just supporting characters, antagonists, and
stock characters. Think about it for a second, you don’t want to call yourself
the minor character in your life story, it is your life, not someone else’s.
Life is a game, your character is either strong at first or
strong at the end. In the real world, we call them prodigies and late bloomers.
A prodigy is just extremely gifted, born with the skills and talent, gets
special attention while young. A late bloomer is the opposite, a random nobody
until the day the late bloomer begins a series of hard work (quests) to improve
itself. Both, of course, can reach the same pinnacles of the game, the finales
(the boss levels), the best moments in life once achieved. Leaving a mark on
civilization, just like Mozart, Einstein, Disney, Socrates, Lincoln, Da Vinci,
and many others, whether child prodigies or late bloomers, they all reached the
same heights of success. Game is not over, work hard from now on, make a
plan—they all did, successful people owe their success to their hard work.
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Life is a storybook, you’re the main character. The story
can be set in a millionaire’s house, an impoverished country, or the
middle-class neighborhood. A good story requires a great conflict, something
the protagonist needs a lot of effort to beat. There’s going to be drama,
horror, psychological dilemmas, hardships, and sadness as the story goes on.
Also, there will be times of happiness, love, excitement, sentimentality, and
friendship. Your story continues chapter after every chapter, some long and
some short. The story revolves around you and the conflict: could be your
school, peers, family, society, and even yourself. The story only ends when one
force prevails, you must overcome the antagonist, do not try to escape it. Work
hard to achieve success, don’t procrastinate, a good story has no chapter where
the main character does nothing important.
Life is a film, a movie without a specific genre, not just
action, not just adventure, not just drama. Life is a mix of many different
genres, there’s adventure, romance, suspense, comedy, drama. You either aspire
for a movie (life) you want that’s full of satisfaction, or you can aim low and
reduce the amount of possible genre mixings. You may not have control of
everyone, thus you can’t be the writer of your life, but you’re the director,
the one who chooses a vision to follow. Oh, and make sure it’s a cool movie,
you’d be able to leave a mark on society.
Dream for a nice life, but don’t forget that a lot of effort
goes a long way, studying an hour a day amounts to more than 350 hours in a
year. Learning 5 foreign words a day amounts to more than 1800 words a year,
enough for language eloquence. I’ve seen a lot of people get the supermodel
body after exercising daily, within months. Working hard can get you anywhere,
just like when Michael Jordan was in high school, the only thing extraordinary
about him, at that time, was that he played as if every game was his last.
Just remember this: dream then start, then you fail, then
you succeed… and then you improve.
- Angelo
Preparing for University
Changes in life
can seem scary sometimes. Changes can be quick and unnoticeable; while other
times, it’s so sudden and we weren't even prepared for it. That’s why some people describe changes as tornados: they hit without any sign of warning and can turn
your house upside down completely. I usually don’t like changes because I will
have to adapt to the new environment and I’m usually not good at it.
The biggest change
I’m facing this year is to graduate from high school. It will be one of my most
important life events. I think it will take me awhile to get used to my new
life. So I want to prepare early. I asked my friends attending universities and
got some tips that will be useful to adapt to changes in your life such as
moving, changing school and going to university.
Tip#1: Make friends
Engage with
people, converse, ask questions. When you have friends, you won’t feel lonely.
You can have someone to talk to and hang out with. It’s the best to start
during the first week, while everyone is in the same boat. It is hard to make
the first move, but it will benefit you later on. Be nice and just be you. It’s
simple!
Tip#2: Join clubs
There are lots of
activities to do on campus. Take a look at the clubs list and join in. It’s the
fastest way to make new friends. You get to meet many people with same
interests as you do. Don’t be scared.
Learning how to use the library resources is always important because you will be spending lots of time here researching. It will be painful learning how to research because it’s boring. But it will pay off later in the year.
Tip#4: Choose courses you enjoy
You can always go to the first class and see how it goes. If you were bored and didn’t find it interesting, then drop it and find a new year. By choosing a course you enjoy, you will be motivated and willing to learn.
Tip#5: Don’t over commit
Start with a couple classes. Add more if you have the time for it. Do not start your year with 10 courses and a job. It will stress you out! Slow down and take time to learn.
Tip#6: Don’t Wait
If you feel yourself falling behind, do something about it immediately. Reread lecture notes and textbooks, ask a friend, do extra practice or ask your professor. Don't wait till right before the midterm/exam to deal with it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Tip#7: Ways to save money
Work! Working during school can reduce your debt upon graduation. Most
of the schools offer on campus jobs. You can work part-time and save it up.
Universities can be expensive! Also, buy used textbooks! Ask around for used textbooks or buy them online (craigslist
etc.) It can save you A LOT of money. If you don’t write on it, you can re-sale
it next year!
Hopefully these short and basic tips will be handy once you are in university!
- Lu
New is Always Better 2.0
In my first year here in VANITY I wrote a blog about the advantages of newness, may it be technology, traditions or just plain new ideologies in life. However, that blog was too general. So for this New Year, I am writing about few specific changes that have made my life better since I’ve moved here in Canada.
I guess the first thing that has changed in me is being
quieter. Though any people that know me well will say otherwise, I think that
I’ve gotten quieter. Usually, I will be the one who keeps a conversation from
dying, because dear God I can’t stand awkward silence, but now, I seem to be
quite comfortable with it. It gives me peace. Quite antisocial though. I also have
a problem of not thinking before talking which often gets me into icky
situations even though I did not mean any offense or make myself look stupid,
and so being quiet just saves me from this. Being quieter also taught me how to
listen. You
know that moment when a friend tells you something and you tell him/her
something the same from your experiences and you ended up shifting the tide of
conversation and you feel like you are not “empathising” anymore and you just
look like a big ball of narcissism? (or at least, that’s how I feel) Welp,
being quiet once again saves me from doing this. Like I said, as someone who is
talkative and uncomfortable of awkward silences, being quiet has finally given
me the opportunity to just shut up and realize that not
talking isn’t the worst thing in the world and just to drink in what others are
saying and being observant is probably one of the greatest pleasures
that one should experience.
New things in our life can always be seen in a different angle. Sometimes they can be “bumps”, but as I have previously said, try to see the silver lining. New is always better. .. better in some ways we haven’t seen yet!
- Anonymeh
“Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself
from the unacceptable” - Denis Waitley
What's Up, Vancouver? (January 2015)
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The Now Year
It’s almost the end of year 2014, which means it’s the season for New Year resolutions again. Have you ever set a goal and achieved it? If yes, then good for you (but still read on)! If no, then keep reading. A lot of us would probably say, “oh I will try my best to lose some weight,” or “I will stop drinking soda,” or “I will stop procrastinating” and the list goes on. But do we follow through? We set resolutions in the New Year to change our lives for the better. That’s good, right? But hold on, why do we have to wait for the end of the year? Why not start now?
I’d like to introduce to you what
I call “The Now Year.” Start now, (yes, NOW) and when the new year comes,
you’re already ahead of yourself! No more waiting for January 1st to
sign up for that gym membership- start midway December before all the Holiday
parties (and all the eating) start!
With this new idea introduced, it
brings afloat the topic of “living in the moment,” where one lives life to the
fullest now, whilst not worrying much about yesterday and tomorrow. Now is
important because that is where you are now. Now is where you can make things
happen! So if you want to change something in your life (like what you would
say in a New Year’s resolution), you can’t do it yesterday. You can do it
tomorrow, but why wait? Do it now, in the NOW Year!
So let’s change
tradition. Instead of saying “Happy New Year,” be grateful for what is now and
say “Happy Now Year!” Be reminded that
the next year is still tomorrow, and what matters most is the present. Be in the moment! Live in it!
Aside: It’s
interesting how changing one letter can significantly alter the definition of a
phrase. It takes one small thing to change a big thing. Do you ever think about
that too, how our little good deeds result in bigger rewards? That could be a
good Now Year’s resolution: do more good in the community!
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a
gift. That is why it is called the ‘present.’” –Shifu, Kung Fu Panda
Live in the moment
(yes, that means now),
- Jose
My Christmas Wish
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| Courtesy of: Markus Spiske |
I was never really given a personal allowance, instead, I
was always given a sum of money every week that would be enough for my commute
to school, and anything else I needed. Money for personal use, well, that
wasn’t really something I had growing up.
Part of it was because money was tight, but that was
something my parents never wanted me to know. They took it upon themselves to
hide anything that may indicate financial struggle. Even though I never had an
allowance, I didn’t think I needed one, because when I was a kid, when I wanted
something, they would give it to me. Every time.
My parents struggled to put me through school, mainly
because they wanted me to go to the best private school in the Philippines, and
not once did they complain about shouldering the huge expense by working longer
hours and placing themselves in debt.
I only learned about our financial situation when we moved
to Canada, when I was finally old enough to understand why they did all that
they did, and why they never wanted me to learn about their hardship. They just
loved me so much, they didn’t want me to be bothered with all the stress of not
knowing how to pay the month’s bills or this year’s tuition.
Damn.
So now that I have a job, now that I earn money to pay for
my own tuition, I think it’s only fitting to pay them back. Every time I get my
paycheck, I save some of it for my parents. I have a plan, you see.
Every Christmas, starting from way back when I was five, my
parents would always surprise me by pretending to have forgotten about what I
wanted, then giving the gift to me when the day was over; it’s a tradition that
has so much more meaning to me now that I know the full story behind everything
they’ve ever done.
My plan is that with the sum of money I’ve stashed away,
I’ll use it to buy them the things they want, and as it grows, so will the
gifts. Small gifts for now, given that I’ve only been working for a few months
or so, but as the years go by and as (hopefully) my paycheck grows and the sum
increases, I can give them the things they’ve gone without just for my sake.
I’m a simple guy with no real need for anything other than
food and internet connection, so who knows, maybe with enough time and effort I
can get them a vacation in Hawaii for the Winter, and, maybe with my brother
and sister, buy them a house when we’ve all grown up. It’s the very least I can
do.
- Carlo
Trying Out New Things
Winter
is absolutely my favourite season. There is hot-chocolate, eggnog, gingerbread,
snow, Christmas…who doesn’t love Christmas? You don’t have to celebrate
Christmas, but the general jolly-ness of the holiday always makes my day. In
Vancouver, the absolute must-do during winter is to go skiing, or snowboarding.
If you feel like speed is not your thing, there is always cross-country skiing,
but that’s not what this article’s about. I’ve never skied before coming to
Canada. But at the urging of many family members and friends, I decided to go
for it.
As a
kid (>12 I think), they were very cheap
season tickets. Going with a friend is probably a good idea, preferably
somebody who knows what they’re doing because learning (at least for me) was
not easy. Yes, skiing and snowboarding look
cool, but when you’re actually on those flat pieces of plastic, the ground
really does seem to move fast. My first time snowboarding, I couldn’t go down
the bunny hill. But of course, everything gets better with practice. Unfortunately
for me, my dad thought I got enough practice on the very first day.
So
off I go, with him at the top waiting and me on a green. Yes, green runs are
supposed to be easy but that was actually the first day I was on a snowboard.
So precariously I turned and stopped, turned and stopped, sometimes just edging
my way down the hill. However half way down, the wind started to pick up and
before I knew it, I was in the middle of a blizzard. There was snow and wind
blowing everywhere, sometimes so thick that I could barely see which way is up
and which way is down, only relying on gravity. And that didn’t work so well as
gravity also made you fall. So there I was falling and stopping and going
slower than a person walking. And there wasn’t anything I could do; walking
back up was way too far, so I kept on going.
After
almost 2.5 hours I finally saw the shadow of chairlifts at the end of the run. Words
cannot describe the relief I felt; there wasn’t a happier sight. I finally got
on the chairlift, taking me up in less than 10 minutes,
and of course, falling again when I got off. But
I went back. Even though I was terrified afterwards, I went back again and
again, and now, snowboarding’s my favourite thing in the world.
So
the moral of the story? Skiing is awesome, and there’s a reason Vancouver
hosted the winter Olympics. But more than that, it’s to always try something
new. To try, try again because one day, you’ll succeed. One day, you’ll look
back and realize these experiences have made you far more as a person, and be
filled with pride. That day, you’ll be a happy person.
- Selena
The Philosophy of Gifting
The holidays are within us! A
time for wonderful moments. A jolly gift giving season. So, what kind of gift
are you expecting? Would you want money-gifts? I wouldn’t, so I’ll explain it,
I’d rather share someone’s time. Why? I’ll explain my principles for gift
giving.
· Sentimental Things - cause true, genuine, human EMOTIONS, and they strengthen BONDS.
· Luxury Items - anything you don’t necessarily need. Something you’d WANT but can’t easily BUY.
· Functional Stuff - the USEFUL and COOL stuff, the gifts that creates life IMPROVEMENTS.
· Money and Cash - anything that can be SPENT. I absolutely dislike this option, but I might consider it if I need, not want, something from the HOLIDAY SALES.
To start with, the Sentimental Things are always my favourite,
except when they are too sappy. They give you the best emotional reactions to
gifts. Sometimes, they might not even look like material gifts, but they exist.
Also, they also mean that you care more for the other person receiving this
type of gift.
· Any custom-made gift made by you. Works well if you’re artistic, musical, or crafty.
· Anything that involves one of the person’s most valuable interests. Tickets for movie lovers, a sketchpad for artists, a fancy pen for academics, a chessboard for thinkers, etc.
· Finally, what other thing beats sharing your time? Spending your time with a person beats any gift; discuss intellectual ideas, talk about the past and the following year, go around town visiting holiday hotspots, and get a cup of coffee. Make people appreciate you, not your wallet.
Remember that thought does count. Gifting anything expensive
without putting thought into it makes you seem materialistic and egotistical.
Then it puts guilt and a feeling of awkwardness on the person if he/she returns
a “cheaper” gift.
Examples of Luxury Items:
· What a child typically wants, the latest PlayStation/Xbox/Laptop/Apple/Android. Gaming consoles, stationary and portable. Enough said.
· He buys Bvlgari jewellery, Louis Vuitton shoes, and the priciest Gucci bag. Then grandpa gives them to hermit cousin who does not care whether he’d taken a shower or not … seriously, think before buying senselessly.
Not all gifts over $100 are considered luxury, thoughtless
freebies. Some of them actually are bought to add interest and practicality to
gift exchanges. Additionally, some of them might be liked by others depending
on their functionality.
Examples of Functional Stuff (That Are Actually Cool):
· iPhone lens. They are absolutely awesome. Photographer or videographer, both would agree that those glassy attachments are the best things ever since Converse Chuck Taylors.
· A year of Netflix, eBooks, a fitness watch, or a flash drive (USB) are all possible picks. This is the 21st century, better adapt to it rather than stay traditional in the past.
· Clothing will always be in someone’s must-have list. However, not all kinds of clothing should be gifted. Usually, scarves, earrings, hats, belts, sunglasses, and other accessories are the safest categories to pick from.
· iPhone lens. They are absolutely awesome. Photographer or videographer, both would agree that those glassy attachments are the best things ever since Converse Chuck Taylors.
· A year of Netflix, eBooks, a fitness watch, or a flash drive (USB) are all possible picks. This is the 21st century, better adapt to it rather than stay traditional in the past.
· Clothing will always be in someone’s must-have list. However, not all kinds of clothing should be gifted. Usually, scarves, earrings, hats, belts, sunglasses, and other accessories are the safest categories to pick from.
Money and Cash:
Should you even consider it as a possible
gift idea? Think about gift cards, cheques, Christmas money. Do you sense the
“I-don’t-have-time-to-do-something-thoughtful” feeling when receiving or giving
money? The problem is that the gift card or cash has a limit attached to is,
$25, $50, $100. Why must you be bought, treated like an object, like you’re
just some kind of businessman’s business? Why not be treated as a human whose
emotional response is more valuable than temporary feelings of power from
having $50 to spend at Walmart? Two answers: the person does not care about you
or the person just does not know enough about you, so buys a gift card or gives
money to be safe.
To end this, why not think about giving someone a
combination of the three? Let’s say, your time and company, something useful
but valuable and hard to get. For example, spend the holidays together, give
the techy person- a smart-ring or a smartwatch, the gamer- a newly released video
game, the fashionable- a beautiful scarf, the artist- sheet music or an arts
book, the intellectual- something new to learn.
I have skipped many types of people, you can probably find
out the type of person you’d gift yourself. Remember, thought over price. The
value of a gift is better found by the reactions of the receiver, not on the
price it displays in the stores. A present can be as rare as life, friends and
a future to look forward to, or it can be as simple and lovely as a nice
conversation under the winter atmosphere.
- Angelo
Things To Do in Vancouver This Christmas Season
Christmas is a
Christian holiday that celebrates the birth of Jesus Christ. No one really
knows the exact date of his birth, but most Christians celebrate Christmas on
December 25. On this day, most people go to church, where they participate in
special religious events. During the Christmas season, they also exchange gifts
and decorate their homes with lights, Christmas trees and mistletoe.
Christmas is
one of my favorite holidays because I like how families and friends gather
together and have delicious Christmas dinner and spend time with each other. I
always enjoy spending time with my families and friends. So I have made a list
of activities that I will be doing during the holiday season. You can also go
to some of those events and get into your Christmas spirit!
Bright Nights at Stanley Park
It’s nice to
go with your family and friends to check out millions of twinkling lights
sparkle at night in Stanley Park. For seeing the lights, entrance fee is by
donation, meaning that you can pay what you are willing to pay. The money goes
to the BC Professional Fire Fighters'
Burn Fund. You can also buy a ticket ($6-11) to ride on the train
for an experience of lights and live music. It opens from November 27
to January 4 (Closed on Christmas Day). This event is definitely on my
winter activities checklist. I love looking at beautiful lights and sipping hot
chocolate with my friends.
Get a Real
Christmas tree
If you live in an apartment (like me), you probably aren’t allowed to have
a real tree. However, if you are lucky enough to live in a single house, why don’t
you get a real Christmas tree? There are plenty of places around the city to
get a real tree and have fun decorating it:
·
St. Stephen’s United Church at 54th and Granville Street,
Vancouver
·
November 28 – December 21. 7 days a week 10 a.m. – 9 p.m
·
Lord Byng High School parking lot at 3939
West 16th Avenue, Vancouver
·
December 4 – 18
·
Monday to Friday from 12:30 p.m. to 8 p.m.; Saturday and
Sunday from 10 a.m. to 8 p.m.
· Eagle Ridge United Church at 2813
Glen Drive, Coquitlam
· November 28 – December 21
· Monday to Thursday from 12 p.m. – 7 p.m.; Friday,
Saturday, Sunday from 10 a.m. – 9 p.m.
·
All Saints Anglican Church at Royal Oak and Rumble,
Burnaby
·
November 28 – December 21
·
Monday to Thursday 12 p.m. – 7
p.m.; Friday, Saturday, Sunday 10 a.m. – 9 p.m.
·
Lonsdale Quay – East Plaza 123 Carrie Cates Court, North
Vancouver
·
November 28 – December 21
·
Monday to Thursday 12 p.m. – 7
p.m.; Friday & Saturday 10 a.m. – 7 p.m.; Sunday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m.
·
Prince of Wales Secondary School at
2250 Eddington Drive
·
November 30 – December 21
·
Monday to Friday 12 p.m. – 7 p.m.; Weekends 9 a.m. – 9
p.m.
·
Corner of Marine Dr. and Taylor
Way, West Vancouver
·
November 22 – December 23
·
Monday to Friday 12 p.m. – 8 p.m.;
Weekends 9 a.m. – 6 p.m.
Go For a Walk
and Check Out the Light Displays Around the City
There are many amazing
light displays around the city. Some places you should check out are: St.
Paul’s Hospital, Harbour Centre, Canada Place, Jack Poole Plaza, Robson Square, Trinity Street Christmas Light Festival in East Vancouver. They have amazing light
displays there.
Going to the Christmas Market is the number one thing to do on my holiday
activities checklist. There are over 50 unique vendors, beautiful
lights and delicious food. This is the 5th annual Christmas Market
in Vancouver. People love going there. It is back again in the heart of
downtown at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre Plaza– 650 Hamilton Street,
Vancouver
November 22 to December 24, 11 a.m. to 9 p.m. daily (11 a.m. to
6 p.m. on December 24)
Come to the VanDusen Garden (5251 Oak Street) this holiday. Enjoy drinking
hot chocolate while walking through the beautiful light decorations. Take
photos with Santa and enjoy holiday treats!
Wednesday, December 10
to Sunday, January 4. Closed on Christmas Day
Going ice
skating in winter is a must. There are lots of rinks in Vancouver. But my favorite
one will always be the Robson Square Rink (800 Robson Street (Robson &
Howe)). It is in the busiest section of downtown. If you own a pair of skates,
then good news for you, you get to skate for free! Just bring your skates, get
changed and have fun! But don’t worry if you don’t have your own skates.
Rentals are available for only $4. One thing you need to remember is that they
only accept cash. So don’t forget to bring some cash! There is a concession
stand right beside the rink. They serve many snacks and drinks.
· Sunday to
Thursday, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.
· Friday and
Saturday, 9 a.m. to 11 p.m.
· Christmas Eve,
December 24 – 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.
· Christmas Day,
December 25 – Noon to 5 p.m.
· Boxing Day,
December 26 – 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.
· New Year’s
Eve, December 31 – 9 a.m. to 11 p.m.
· New Year’s
Day, January 1 – 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.
Volunteer/Donate
Don’t’
forget to give back to the community. There will be lots of events happening in
your neighborhood. Why not taking time and volunteer? Check with your community
centers, soup kitchens or food banks. Enjoy your holiday by helping those in
need!
Do you have some old clothes lying around in your wardrobe;
do you have some canned food hiding in your cabinet? Donate these stuff to the
people in need. Your donation can make a difference in someone’s holiday.
Also, don’t forget the animals! Check out the animal
rescue centers. Help out or donate. Let the animals have a happy holiday as
well!
Get a Job
Christmas is approaching and that means shops are going
to have sales. It will be a good time to get a job at the retail shops. They
will be looking for employees to help out during the busiest time of the year.
Earn some extra $$$!
- Lu
Culture vs. Ethnicity
What is your group of friends like? Do you
share the same culture and race? Is it your own home country’s culture, more of
the Canadian culture, or a bit of both? Are they also immigrants?
The newcomer’s
dilemma is this:
Who would your first friends be for your first time in a Canadian school? Fellow immigrants, from the same origin country? Most likely.
Those who share your interests, like video games or art, but are from a different culture? Maybe, but it’s rare because of a culture/language barrier.
Or perhaps, you are a culture vulture who hangs out with different kinds of people, regardless of their backgrounds.
The actual question is: would you join a group of immigrants, or do the opposite, immerse yourself immediately with normal English speakers?
Who would your first friends be for your first time in a Canadian school? Fellow immigrants, from the same origin country? Most likely.
Those who share your interests, like video games or art, but are from a different culture? Maybe, but it’s rare because of a culture/language barrier.
Or perhaps, you are a culture vulture who hangs out with different kinds of people, regardless of their backgrounds.
The actual question is: would you join a group of immigrants, or do the opposite, immerse yourself immediately with normal English speakers?
At my
school, I usually notice new immigrant teens banding with other immigrants from
their home country, myself included, I was sent forced by the school to
befriend a group of racially-like immigrants on my first days of Canadian high
school. I disliked the school’s decision to do that, it left little room for
possibilities, but it paved the way for my adaptation to multicultural Canada.
It went like this, I was introduced to friendly newcomers, I felt safe and
comfortable, I spoke my language with them, then I slowly, but successfully,
pushed myself to adapt to Canadian culture.
Actually,
I lied to get your sympathy. That did
not happen to me (because I’m just weird) but it usually does to most newcomers
(who aren’t weird at all). The forced, and societally imposed grouping
reinforces stereotypes, usually negative ones. It’s also extremely pointless if
the goal is to achieve a multi-cultural, inclusive society in schools. Placing
immigrants to their own distinct racial groups can weaken cultural adaptation,
which even at the cost of extra convenience and comfort become
counterproductive. This is because people will want to be with other people
they can relate with, and this paired with forced grouping, is what makes
casual intercultural relationships difficult. Different groups are going to
have different expectations from other groups, because their large sizes make
stereotypes visible.
Going
back to the question, we can say that you either have friends from your home
culture, or you have friends who you share specific interests with (video
gamers, artists, academics, and all of the other cliques). If you belong to the
latter, the second answer, or even if you belong to both at the same time, then
you have successfully adapted in some way. However, if you only belong to the
first, let’s say an exclusive Asian-Korean culture group as an example, then it
means that you need to absorb various cultures around you. It’s effective since
it makes the definitions of “stereotypes”
and “racism” obsolete, they just
stopped getting used, and multiculturalism prevails if kept that way.
So to simplify this, either you belong to a group of friends who share the same ethnicity and still keeps their home culture out of the house, or you have a mixed culture group of friends who you hang out with. Anyway, even if you mostly have country-culture immigrant friends, it won’t give you disadvantages if you become bicultural, having both your home culture and Canadian culture at the same time, proving that multiculturalism is possible.
Finally, some advice I heard from a Croatian friend, “…just accept different cultures, but you also have to observe and understand the differences.”
“Keep your language. Love its sounds, its
modulation, its rhythm. But try to march together with men of different
languages, remote from your own, who wish like you for a more just and human
world.”
- Hélder Câmara, author of
Spiral Of Violence
